The trials and travails of a ‘platonic’ friendship


Megha Sharma

My friend walks into the office with an elusive smile on his face that is meant for everybody in his near vicinity. The smile is totally non-controversial but the poor guy is unaware of the fact that a mere smirk of his lips has his fellow colleagues casting aspersions on his character.

The reason being his painfully innocent friendship with a girl from another department, who by the way happens to know him through a common friend- a perfectly legitimate reason it seems.

The interesting flow of events forced me to ruminate upon the trials and travails a platonic friendship has to face in order to thrive in a social space that though increasingly free-spirited ends up being caricaturish in it’s approach and treatment of such relationships.

Why is it that my friendship with a guy is subject to social conditioning of a whole different nature than say with a gal pal of mine? The mere fact that someone is high on one’s priority of thoughts does not necessarily translate into them being a couple!

A minor level of attraction amongst two people of the opposite sex is a natural enough phenomenon and doesn’t have to interfere in the way of them being the best of friends and loving each other’s company without having to fall in the stereotypical mores of a conventional boy-girl story.

The modern society in India is unique in its treatment of the change in the way we are coming to perceive the idea of being ‘just friends’. We love to watch and emulate the antics of the hit English sitcom ‘Friends’ but nevertheless cant help feeling a wee bit curious about a platonic relationship that is blossoming in front of our very eyes!

Friendship can be and very much is the best platform to meet and understand a fellow human being in every way possible. It can help one relate to a person and even probably be instrumental in forging ties that are more than just friendship, but that is the case only in isolated instances and thus subjecting every relationship to that level of scrutiny is unfair to say the least!

I pity my poor friend, who it seems is now petrified of engaging in a very normal conversation fearing he will unleash a barrage of wily office gossip! The relationship is thus seemingly headed for doom without even crossing the threshold of mere acquaintances to being good friends!

PS: Dedicated to one of my dear friends who is currently facing the pleasurable dilemma, affording us much amusement as he fights the odds! 🙂

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~ by eugenicist on January 20, 2008.

One Response to “The trials and travails of a ‘platonic’ friendship”

  1. A minor level of attraction amongst two people of the opposite sex is a natural enough phenomenon and doesn’t have to interfere in the way of them being the best of friends and loving each other’s company without having to fall in the stereotypical mores of a conventional boy-girl story
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